Al-Anon

Nearly 30 million people in the United States had an alcohol use disorder in 2020. Alcoholism does not exist in a vacuum. It impacts families, friends, and society as a whole. 

Al-Anon can provide support and understanding for loved ones affected by alcohol abuse and addiction. This organization can offer support to family and friends of alcoholics regardless of if they choose to admit they have a problem or seek help. 

By sharing common experiences and applying the Al-Anon principles, individuals are able to bring about positive changes in their own lives. Many people find solace and support in this organization.

What Is Al-Anon?

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) was founded in 1935. As early as 1939, family members and friends were attending meetings with the alcoholic to learn more about supporting each other and living by the 12 steps. 

Al-Anon was officially started in 1951, providing separate meetings for friends and family members of alcoholics. Before this official beginning, families of alcoholics were creating their own groups and holding meetings. 

The number one priority of Al-Anon is to support and help families of people who are struggling with alcohol use disorder. It is a mutual self-supporting organization that provides understanding and aid while dealing with a loved one and their alcohol abuse and/or addiction. 

Al-Anon members practice living by the 12 steps, offering emotional support, comfort, and empathy to those impacted by someone else’s drinking. This support can be crucial even if the alcoholic is not ready to seek help.

Al-Anon: Treatment for a Family Illness

Al-Anon is the most commonly used form of help for family and friends affected by someone else’s drinking. By treating alcoholism as a disease that impacts the entire family unit and not just the individual doing the drinking, Al-Anon offers support and encouragement to loved ones impacted by alcohol misuse. 

Alcohol abuse and addiction affects everyone close to the alcoholic. By treating it as a family illness, every aspect of the disease is addressed. This kind of support can aid in addressing the emotional, physical, and psychological effects problem drinking can have on loved ones. 

Al-Anon for Teens 

A division of the Al-Anon program, Alateen supports teenagers (people ages 19 and younger) who are impacted by someone else’s drinking. It is a place for members to share similar experiences and get help coping with problems and issues related to a loved one’s drinking. 

Members support and encourage each other. They are able to discuss difficulties and learn how to apply the 12 steps and principles to their own struggles. 

Alateen also offers a wealth of resources and a mobile app for teens between the ages of 13 and 18. They also offer electronic meetings just for teens.

How Do You Find an Al-Anon Meeting?

To find an Al-Anon meeting, go through the website, enter your address, and designate a search radius. You can choose your preferred meeting type — Al-Anon or Alateen — and your language preference and day of the week. 

Be sure to check with the local Al-Anon Information Service office to verify the meeting status before attending. Some meetings were moved online or temporarily suspended during the COVID-19 pandemic.

What Can You Expect During Your First Meeting?

Al-Anon meetings are all self-reliant mutual support groups, which means that each meeting structure can be a little different. 

You can expect to be welcomed warmly and will likely meet a variety of different people with various types of relationships with an alcoholic. This can be an immediate family member, friend, coworker, or relative. 

Each person will have a unique perspective on how their loved one’s alcohol abuse has affected their life. At meetings, members often offer shared experiences, but you are not expected to share if you are not ready to do so. 

You will only be asked your first name, as Al-Anon meetings value privacy and anonymity. Anything shared in a meeting is kept confidential. Al-Anon meetings offer a safe space to share resources and information on how to best help yourself. 

These meetings do not provide advice, judgment, or pressure. Instead, they provide you with tools to learn how to best solve your own issues. 

It is recommended to attend at least six meetings before deciding whether or not the group is beneficial to you, as the benefits can come in unexpected ways. Don’t quit after only your first meeting.

Tips to Prepare for Your First Al-Anon Meeting

Most Al-Anon meetings are going to start with some kind of welcome and introductions. A member will often greet newcomers and explain how Al-Anon has benefited them. There may be a speaker, a specific topic to cover, or time for people to share if they want to. 

Here are some tips for your first Al-Anon meeting:

• Recognize that you are brave for going.
• You only have to share what you are comfortable sharing.
• Most of all, listen and keep an open mind.
• Focus on your similarities with others instead of your differences.
• Keep going back. 

What Are the 12 Steps of Al-Anon?

The 12 steps of Al-Anon have been adopted directly from the 12 steps of AA. They are nearly verbatim with AA’s 12 steps, with only a few minor changes.

Here is a summary of Al-Anon’s 12 steps:

1. Admit that we can’t control our lives with alcohol present. 
2. Believe that a higher power can restore control and stability in our lives.
3. Turn our life over to the higher power in whatever form we understand that to be.
4. Take a full moral inventory .
5. Admit to the higher power, the self, and another person exactly what we’ve done wrong. 
6. Are fully ready to have the higher power remove any character defects or shortcomings.
7. Ask the higher power to remove these inadequacies.
8. Make a list of everyone we have hurt and be willing to make good with these individuals.
9. Make amends to these people except if it would hurt them to attempt to do so.
10. Continue to review our character and take steps to admit wrongdoings.
11. Aim to improve our relationship with the higher power.
12. Carry the message of AA and Al-Anon to others, to help them in their recovery.

How Al-Anon Can Benefit the Whole Family

Al-Anon can provide you with support, hope, encouragement, and resources for coping with someone else’s drinking problems. Every member of the family is impacted by alcoholism in some way, and Al-Anon seeks to provide understanding and validation for every person. 

Through meetings and the adaptation of the 12 steps, families and friends can learn how to best take care of themselves and each other while managing a loved one and their alcohol use disorder. It can help for people to know that they are not alone in this and lean on others who can offer empathy and respect in a nonjudgmental environment.